Have you ever been in a tug of war?
Your friends are surrounding you. The enemy is on the other side. There is a white ribbon fluttering in the wind as you use every muscle in your body to drag it across a line etched in dirt.
The rope cuts into your hands as an equal and opposing force uses all of its might to swing the ribbon in the other direction.
Feet dug into the dirt, it can feel like every effort you make is powerless over the strength of the opposing team.
Until everything changes.
Something gives, and you feel the weight of everyone’s effort force you back onto your teammates.
Laughing, wiping your hands on your legs, you realize … You won.
Sometimes, when we are knee deep in our struggles, it is difficult to see how our own actions can contribute to the pain we are feeling.
It can feel as if we are in this never-ending tug of war with our addiction/anxiety/depression etc. We are constantly fighting the inevitable waves of emotion and it is difficult not to feel helpless.
Until we realize that we can drop the rope.
We have the power to end this game if we allow ourselves the reprieve of just letting go.
Accepting that we are powerless over our addiction is the first step for a reason. It is impossible to win this fight if we continue to hold on to the rope, never allowing ourselves to take control of our lives.
Although in the game of tug-of-war, letting go may signify defeat, in the game of life, letting go is the ultimate power move. Instead of continuing to fight, you are finally allowing life to happen on life’s terms.
So, drop the rope.
Signify that you are not continuing to battle what you have no control over, and welcome the support of those around you. Maybe hand the rope over to someone else for a while?
When we allow ourselves to “Let go and let God (or Higher Power)” we open ourselves up to change. We allow our tired souls to rest, and can drop the burden of whatever we are carrying.
Tired of the war? Drop the rope.