Have you ever been in a tug of war?

Your friends are surrounding you. The enemy is on the other side. There is a white ribbon fluttering in the wind as you use every muscle in your body to drag it across a line etched in dirt.

The rope cuts into your hands as an equal and opposing force uses all of its might to swing the ribbon in the other direction.

Feet dug into the dirt, it can feel like every effort you make is powerless over the strength of the opposing team.

Until everything changes.

Something gives, and you feel the weight of everyone’s effort force you back onto your teammates.

Laughing, wiping your hands on your legs, you realize … You won.

Sometimes, when we are knee deep in our struggles, it is difficult to see how our own actions can contribute to the pain we are feeling.

It can feel as if we are in this never-ending tug of war with our addiction/anxiety/depression etc. We are constantly fighting the inevitable waves of emotion and it is difficult not to feel helpless.

Until we realize that we can drop the rope.

We have the power to end this game if we allow ourselves the reprieve of just letting go.

Accepting that we are powerless over our addiction is the first step for a reason.  It is impossible to win this fight if we continue to hold on to the rope, never allowing ourselves to take control of our lives.

Although in the game of tug-of-war, letting go may signify defeat, in the game of life, letting go is the ultimate power move. Instead of continuing to fight, you are finally allowing life to happen on life’s terms.

So, drop the rope.

Signify that you are not continuing to battle what you have no control over, and welcome the support of those around you. Maybe hand the rope over to someone else for a while?

When we allow ourselves to “Let go and let God (or Higher Power)” we open ourselves up to change. We allow our tired souls to rest, and can drop the burden of whatever we are carrying.

Tired of the war? Drop the rope.



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2 thoughts on “Tired of the tug-of-war? Drop the rope.

  1. Hello.
    I held tight to that Rope for over 15yrs. There were times I gave it some slack & went into Rehab, Attended NA Mtgs, or had Stopped Heroin for a time. BUT I never Stay Stopped for very long. 2yrs & 8 Monrhs Ago I LET GO. It’s hard, learning to Breathe Life into a Body that was all but dead for years. Let Alone Hope Or Dreams. I’ve Only started to allow those two space in my head. I had to make sure I REALLY LET GO OF THE ROPE. And that wasn’t until I had proven to myself That IT NEVER CHANGES WHEN I PICK UP. Within a month, I’m broke, homeless, or If Im Lucky, living in some dirty roadside motel, sleepin next to some who I don’t know n don’t want to know(but he’s paying me or uses too), I’ve pushed anyone I Love & Care About away & I WANT TO DIE.
    So, I Thank You, Mr. Ryan. The majority of people think Addicts, especially Heroin Addicts are bottom of the barrel, scumbags of society. You showed them were not. I have a Master’s Degree. Was an a Freelance Artist & Art Teacher in public school district.

    1. Thanks, Deirdre, for sharing your story. You are right, addiction touches people regardless of what they’ve done in life and who they are. I’m so glad you have found recovery and are willing to share your experience to help others.

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